Be A Better Lover Workshop is a pretty strait forward understated little title. It's not Reviving the Ecstatic Pleasure from the Cosmos! because sometimes we just need a few basics.
Don’t we all want to be better at giving and receiving pleasure? We study and take tests for so many things in life but for some reason being a good lover is something we should just know how to be. Porn is the way most of us learn but is most porn a good illustration of being a good lover?
My friend Ziji and I have been working together for the last few months to create this workshop. We’ve been having a great time as we’ve trying out our ideas on one another! I must say Ziji is very good at many things.
Part of the inspiration of this workshop was to create a simple tools offering on how to keep connected with our partners and to keep pleasure in the flow. We have no secret formulas to teach but more moments of awakening to consider.
Becoming aware during sex is step #1.
When we find ourselves enduring something, we know it’s a call to wake up.
When we feel disconnected from our partner, we may find ourselves lost in our thoughts.
Every pleasurable offering has a beginning, middle and end. When a position, touch or activity is complete, we notice that our pleasure begins to drop.
Learning the difference between sexuality, sensuality and intimacy helps us navigate our pleasure. Once we know the differences, we wake to the idea that we are always on the map of these different pleasure coordinates.
Making a new choice during sex is step #2.
We can begin with conscious intent.
We can synchronize our breathing and sound to reconnect.
We can make a new physical choice.
We can build the sexual energy.
We can move the sexual energy.
We can change the quality of touch.
We can choose to endure nothing.
Something new we’re doing with this workshop is offering a couples version and a singles version. This way, single men can mingle and the couples can do deeper with their primary partners.The first weekend will happen in Seattle November 3rd and 4th and the very next weekend will be in Vancouver, BC, November 10 and 11.
Be A Better Lover more than anything is an opportunity to step outside of our erotics habits and have a look around while the lights are on and the pressure is off. When you dive back in, you might just find a new choice will spark a revelation of new pleasure.
Please join us! 10 am to 6 pm. Looking forward to sharing with you.