Years ago, I went on a few dates with a man named Hector whose kisses were like pesky flies. He was a great guy, smart and fun with a beautiful body, but his tense lips buzzed around my face. They seemed to be everywhere at once. I was continually trying to catch hold of one of those fast flying kisses, but by the time I arrived at the landing site of the last kiss, another one was angling at me from another direction. It was a frustrating disappointment but without a good

The walls we build around us to keep sadness out also keeps out the joy. - Jim Rohn When we are attracted to someone, we come face to face with our vulnerability. Before we can connect, we need to risk the possibility of being rejected. And although we all long for a satisfying connection, often our fear of being refused closes us off long before taking a first step. It wasn’t until I worked with a man around this issue that I realized that I was just as fearful as he was.